My elder daughter turned 10 a month ago. These are interesting times for her, but confusing and scary too. Being a mother, my heart goes out to her when I see her trying to comprehend the emotional changes she is undergoing. Nowadays, I am her biggest friend as well as the bitterest of enemies. So there are so many things I want to tell her but am unable to.
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My husband’s weekly car wash routine often turns into a shouting session.
So what does my hubby’s temper have to do with my kids’ behavior? Just this: All or some of the interior storage spaces like bags at seat backs, dashboard, ash trays and cup holders often have toffee wrappings or juice cartons discarded by the kids.
I have taught my kids not to throw the wrappers, juice cartons or empty packets out of the car window. A good habit, no doubt, that took some time getting drilled into their psyche.
10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know by Kari Kampakis is a book written for the teens and tweens as well as their mothers. The book claims to be a Christian way of bringing up daughters but is for anyone who is interested in bringing up her daughter the correct way.
The seeds of the book were sown when Kari wrote a speech when she was invited by a counselor friend of hers to speak to a group of girls. The talk struck a chord with the girls and she was invited again the next year. Sometime later, she wrote a blog 10 Truths Young Girls Should Know that has been shared on Facebook over 75,000 times and pinned on Pinterest over 28,000 times. The popularity led Thomas Nelson to come out with the book titled 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know.
The book expands her basic 10 guidelines for young girls from the blog post in form of 10 commandments like
- Kindness is more important than popularity
- You were born to fly
- Trust God’s plan for you
I especially liked the chapters on confidence and perseverance because I could instantly connect with the ideas. The chapters tend to get preachy and longish at times but after finishing a chapter it’s just the messages that remain with you. I also liked the discussion questions at the end of each chapter and the small quizzes interspersing the content. These can be good starting points for initiating discussions with your own daughters.
If you are a teenaged girl getting confused by your own as well as your peers’ behavior, this book is for you. If you are a young girl who wants to chart out the correct future path for yourself, this book is for you.
If you are a mother who wants to bring up good, caring and loving daughters, this book is for you. If you are a mother who feels your daughter has a problem but you don’t know how to broach the subject with her, this book is for you.
I call this book a great resource and handbook for every mother who has to raise daughters.
We went to watch the movie Bhaag Milkha Bhaag (BMB) last weekend. An awesome movie but that’s not what I want to dwell upon here. After the movie we were discussing about it and that was when my 6 ½ yr old daughter realized that what she had watched just now was a “real” story, not fiction. Even after repeated assurances she can’t believe it. I didn’t say anything to her but it set me thinking that unbelievable stuff is what real heroes are made of. And she needed to know about more such tales to believe it and get motivated and inspired in her own life.
That’s when I felt we need more such biopic on Indian heroes for our young audience. Today’s kids hardly know about people like Tilak, Gokhale or Veer Savarkar. Or Maharana Pratap, Rani Lakshmi Bai, Kunwar Singh, Panna. The list is endless. There is lots of literature available on them but I find the kids lacking in the patience to read them and recreate them in their mind like we used to do. Gitapress books and Amar Chitra Katha comics had a lot to do with shaping up our personalities in our growing years. Not so now; the kids today prefer the fast paced visual medium.
That the children should develop reading habits from childhood is another matter. I feel they should first be fed on stories of our heroes in whatever medium they want. A series on Bheem or Hanuman is much more preferable than the all-consuming attention kids pay to Chhota Bheem. Chhota Bheem is a character even my 1 yr old daughter identifies. I’m not sure I’m proud of it.
In the recent years, there has been a spate of movies on real-life characters, like Bhagat Singh, Subhash Chandra Bose, Gandhiji. There is an upcoming one on Mary Kom too. Many movies have generated storms over authenticity of events or depiction of characters, but children, thankfully, are unaware of such things. They watch a movie and remember the story. In my opinion, something is better than nothing. They at least get to know about the great people and when the right time comes they will be able to form their own opinion.
And we adults would not mind watching great movies on the side!!!
What if I fail in my 1st yr. dance exam?
What if I fail in my drawing test?
What if I forget the poem on stage?
What if I forget my dialogues mid-way through the performance?
These are but a few of the doubts my 6 ½ yr old daughter has voiced in the recent weeks. This tells me two things about her. One, she can now foresee the near future that is the effect of her present actions. She doesn’t solely live in her present. Two, she has begun to analyse what she does, or is expected to do. I guess she is past that blissful age where one is not concerned about the outcome of one’s actions.
On the face of it, my daughter is a very carefree child. She never thinks before speaking, she never waits a second before reacting to any situation. We all tend to always tell her to think before saying or doing anything (as if we grownups do!!!). So, these are instances where I realize that she is growing up, evolving a personality of her own, a thinking pattern that’s unique to her. And it is at times like these that I am reminded of the great responsibility I shoulder as a mother – to help her develop a positive thinking, smart personality, bold outlook, sharing and caring attitude, etc. etc. etc. The list is endless and God be with both of us.